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Archive for November, 2010

Get the Hint

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Laurie Kaiser's garden variety diamond orb earrings

‘Tis the season when all my women friends tell me secretly what jewelry they want their husbands, boyfriends or significant others to purchase for them. Then, I am supposed to discreetly–and without giving away the ‘plan’– pass this information along, by calling or emailing said husband, boyfriend or S-O for the first time all year, to somehow nonchalantly, offer them my unbiased and completely innocent advice. Inevitably whether I make the initial call or other friends are enlisted to assist in the process, this is  an enactment of how subtly it works:

Dave:   “Jenny called you to tell me exactly what jewelry she wants for Christmas.” (statement, no question mark)

Me: “Well, I wouldn’t say that exactly…she kind of gave a wish list.”

Dave: “She has more than one item?” (definitely a question)

Me: “No, no it’s one.”

Dave: Trying to be witty…”And if I decide to get her an iPad instead?

Me: “She will hit you over the head with it and you won’t be able to return it in thirty days in its original condition.” ….And then I go for it:  “If you don’t comply,  I can’t promise you that you will have a sex life, or those golf clubs you wanted.”

Dave: “Okay. Where do I meet you?”

Now that the cat’s out of the proverbial bag about how it works, remember this for next year: we don’t have to come up with the master plan. Just tell me what you want and I’ll procure it for you..

But –there is always a but–if you want anything that he doesn’t understand, forget it right now. He will not get you the new spiky necklace because he doesn’t find sharp objects around your neck sexy. Ditto for the fabulous web bracelet, which has the pave spider caught in the corner.  He has been killing all the bugs and keeping the creatures away since he met you.

He will spend hours trying to understand why the hell you would want  a rough or rose cut brown or black diamond-or diamond beads–“where is the sparkle, too dark and dreary–no one will ever know they’re diamonds– are you sure?” I’ve had this conversation.  Last year I spent three hours convincing one hubby that a white rose cut  in a simple setting for a pendant was what his wife truly and deeply wanted. And, “no I was not mistaken.” I neglected to have the frank talk–see above enactment–and I actually had to prove that his wife would accept this as a ‘real’ diamond.

If you aren’t married or engaged and he’s not planning on it in the very near future, like say, this holiday season, there is no way he will buy you a ring. Not a cocktail style, three-dimensional fantasy version, not even one with a snake slithering up your finger. Rings are just not in a guy’s jewelry vocabulary. Especially not eternity bands or stackables. I once had a guy break out into a cold sweat, turn a paler shade of white,  need a liter of water just because I showed him the thinnest of micro pave bands in yellow gold with yellow diamonds. Didn’t matter that it was for her pinky  where she wore three others.  He kept saying it was a wedding band. It sent him fleeing.

So my advice to all women out there with wish lists and hints…and their favorite stores clued in on the covert operation: buy all aforementioned pieces as self purchases and go for some intriguing but guy friendly pieces. Earrings are always a winner, even in brown diamonds, as are pendants with a romantic yet safe motif: floral or lacy openwork  with a dash of muted gems like the subtler fancy colored sapphires. Diamonds are his best friend too and he will go for the rose cuts and even the polished roughs  if it’s explained to him with care and if your favorite salesperson can ply him with a few, or possibly many beers…

Another small tip, if he’s never seen you wearing bracelets and this year you’re hankering for some bangles,  borrow and wear them and let him hear them clank on your wrist so he notices.

Although he knows it’s a set up and he’s going a long with it because it does make it so much damn easier for him and allows him time to post scores and sports stats on FB, he will still want to feel like he has some say and he will gravitate more to purchasing jewelry he can picture you in.

And if this has the desired effect for you whomever  reads this, you owe me one fix up–with a fantastic guy who, if it works out, I can send to you for my jewelry next year.

Kamofie Designs black lacy pendant/rose cut diamonds

Anne Sportun Pendant with center stone and pave

John Apel's black diamond flower necklace

Megan Thorne's open work teadrop shaped earring

Jamie Wolf scalloped cuff bracelet

Earthy Delights

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Cathy Waterman

Yesterday, I was driving up the Palisades Parkway where the leaves were ablaze with the colors of fall. I’d been working inside quite often since September and I was relieved I hadn’t missed it. I was with my stepfather and we reminisced about how my mother loved taking this ride. She’d call me every year to join her, when she was still alive. We were both in awe of this wonder of nature–the leaves changing to rich olivine, golden ochre and my favorites, paprika and persimmon, berry and crimson reds.

We also were impressed that every few years or so, fashion designers kept trying to work these autumnal hues into their collections. At the time, my mother was a VP for an established ready-to-wear company and I was a fashion stylist and editor for woman’s magazines. There were the inspirations of Perry Ellis, Anne Klein and Ralph Lauren and other well-known houses who would cleverly mix these vibrant hues of the majestic trees. Problem was that if woman tried to combine these colors –we started to look exactly–like a tree.

Even if you’d choose, say, a brown background with a bit of tonal ochre or olivine thrown in a shawl or a sweater, even if you selected a silk scarf in a fabulous print or a tweed with just flecks of these shades, you were not making a fashion statement. No. You wound up looking like the landscape driving to upstate New York, Pennsylvania, Maine or Vermont. Take your pick.
I remember quite clearly, one Perry Ellis sweater both my mother and I had to own in the ’80s. It was a wool tweed with a peplum waist and small puffed sleeves in the most well thought out tiny flecks of color I’d ever seen. It looks simply gorgeous on the hanger, on the 50% off rack at Bergdorf’s and in our closets for years. Neither one of us were willing to part with it until my mother had a paint job and I moved apartments. And, so we went on to wear basic black and took in autumn’s vivid palette during long car rides, in between conversations and laughs at our fashion faux pas.

What does this have to do with jewelry? I realized yesterday that I have been wearing those same autumnal hues for years in gemstones and I’ve never  looked like the leaf it might be set into or the branch that might wind around it. Jewelry is forgiving that way. The inherent beauty and effects of nature make for a variety of easy to wear and versatile styles in pendants, earrings and rings.

Currently, when rough and raw diamonds are so prevalent as are rose cut sapphires, and a range of quartz colors as well as strong tones such as madeira citrine, hessonite garnet, spinel, rhodolite garnet and a host of geodes and minerals, this is the season to find a tone that suits your complexion or mix and match and have fun playing with all these deep, rustic colors. For the best in these looks, check out Mallary Marks for her brilliant color mixing in faceted and briolette stones, Cathy Waterman for her new use of rough diamonds with her signature delicate and feminine inspired motifs, Todd Reed for his artful mixing and pioneering the way for rough and raw cuts in diamonds, Vibes for her unbridled creativity in her natural and magical collection using rough and rose cut diamonds, Megan Thorne for her new addition of rose cut sapphires in tints that range from greens to burnt oranges and Marie-Helene de Taillac for her simple settings that allow her mesmerizing gemstones to take your breath away, much like the change of seasons, itself.

Todd Reed

Mallary Marks